NORTHERN PLANNER

We all have fundamental human needs. Certainty is maybe the most powerful. A steady job means you know you'll get paid each month, you know you'll make rent. A long term relationship means you know what the other person is likely to say, you'll have your rituals at Christmas, you know you'll be held when it goes wrong (or maybe not).

Another though, is the very opposite. We crave uncertainty, we like not knowing. Sport is a waste of time if you know the result for example. More fundamental, a job may pay the bills yet we have no love for it and wish we were doing something else. At some point we must decide to sacrifice the dreamer inside or give that person a chance.

Just as the steady relationship with no passion or real feeling left provides ballast but doesn't feed your soul. 

You convince yourself of many things, yet eventually there may come a choice here between should and must.

Sometimes that choice is made for you.