On the other hand while I love being defined as Dad and all the responsibility that entails, that isn't the whole story.
While I feel less defined by what I do at work and more by what I do at home, there wil always be a little rebel inside that refused to accept mediocrity and can't stop fighting for great work.
There will always be the 'me' that needs to be alone on a bike, that craves the simplicity of the swimming pool, that feeling of doing something you were made to do.
Every now and then, there's the need to cut loose, to drink too much and act very childishly.
Sometimes, you just need to read a book on your own.
Other times, you need to take your wife out and remind each other you existed before your children did and you wanted to be with her because she took your breath away.
Being this other person is not contradictory, but it isn't selfish or hypocritical, as long as there's balance.
Embracing all the stuff that comes with being a Dad, to me at least, just makes the other stuff more special.
To deny you want these other things too sometimes is lying to yourself. But to pretend you can, or even want, to do do as much as you once did is lying too.
I don't really know why I'm telling you this.
Anyway.
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